Uncle Steve Breaks It Down: The Player || STEVE HARVEY

Uncle Steve Breaks It Down: The Player || STEVE HARVEY


– My next guest has encountered
one of the worst types of men lurking out there
in the dating pool. Take a look. – Hi Steve! My name is Michelle. And since my divorce in 2011, I’ve been looking for love. I meet men who seem genuine and sincere and they make me believe
their intentions are good. Then later, I find out I’ve
been dating a married man. I can’t waste any more time
being deceived by these guys. Steve, please help! – How many guys have you dated and found out later that
they weren’t single. – This has happened twice now, Steve. The first guy, I met at a car wash. He had a Ferrari. He was so handsome. He looked just like Richard Gere. He wined me and dined me. He seemed genuine and sincere. We dated for about a year. The second guy was
living with his ex-wife, he said for the kids
and financial reasons. He assured me that the
relationship with them was completely platonic and that they were dating other people and I
dated him about two months. – How did you find out that
the Ferrari guy was married? – I ended up getting a
phone call from his wife. He was asleep. She grabbed his phone off the table. She said, “Who are you?” I said, “Well, who are you?” She said, “Well I’m his wife! “What are you doing with my husband?” I said, “Oh my goodness,
I really did not know “this guy was married! “I didn’t know he was your husband!” – What about the next guy? How’d you find out he was married? – So the other guy decided to go ahead. I knew where he lived, he told me, but I was never there. So I went to his house,
knocked on his door. His wife answered and asked who I was. I said well, I’m so and so’s girlfriend and I have a little
present for him, a card and I haven’t seen him. – She said, “You’re who,
you’re his girlfriend? “You’re what?” She said, “I’m married
to him, I’m his wife! “What are you doing on my doorstep?” I said, “Oh my goodness, he
said you guys weren’t together!” She’s like, “What!” She thought I was crazy. I’m like, “I am so sorry. “I really didn’t know. “I believed the guy.” – You just the nicest person. You really and you know what,
I’m saying this honestly. I can genuinely tell,
you are really, really a nice person because you’re
walking into situations so blind. – Yeah. – Please know you’re not alone. There are a lot of women
who fall prey to men who pretend to be single
when they’re actually married or in a committed relationship
with a woman somewhere. You can really spot these guys though if you know what to look for. Now, he never talks about where he wants the relationship to go. But if you ask, usually
he’ll say something like, “I’m just trying to go with the flow, “trying to get my footing back, ya know?” But there are some
tell-tale signs to look for before you get in too deep. Now, normally, you know, you wanna go, he’s got a wedding ring on. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but guys take em off. But let me tell ya something, that wedding ring, even when
I don’t have my ring on, it’s in there. Another thing, everything
has to be scheduled during the week. Weekends are off limits. That sound familiar? – Yes. – They almost always pay
for everything with cash. – Oh yeah! Now that I think of it, they always have wads of cash, especially the Ferrari guy. – Wads of cash. – I thought he was just
trying to impress everybody. – No, no, no, can’t have no paper trail. Alright? He always comes to you. Often, when you call
him, he doesn’t pick up, and when you’re with him together, you always see the back of his phone. Players phones is always face down ’cause you can’t see the
activity that’s on here ’cause this bad boy right here
is humming and lighting up all damn night long.
(laughing) (clapping) – Yes, yeah. – Do you understand the
signs that you wanna look out for now? – Oh absolutely. I will not be dating any more married, lying, cheating men. Not after this. – Thank you, Michelle. – Thank you so much. (clapping) – Alright now, when we come back, I’m gon’ break down another type of guy that you all women need
to avoid at all costs. You don’t wanna miss it. Uncle Steve is having class today. (jazzy music)